Author Archives: Naomhán

Compromises

Everyday, we all make compromises. We compromise on what coffee shop we’ll meet our friends in, on our schedules to accommodate our coworkers, on our film choices when at the cinema with others. Compromise is an essential part of communication … Continue reading

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Rethinking Self Care

CN: addiction, suicide

When we talk about self-care, we speak of nurturing the self through physical acts of caring for our bodies. What we continue to neglect is the emotional self, which cannot be nurtured through physical acts if we are consumed in thoughts of shame, denial, negative self-talk and self-loathing, covered up with addictive behaviour. Continue reading

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Disconnection

Disconnection is something that I’ve felt most of my life. I’ve always been aware of the world around me, yet felt somewhat separate to it. The loneliest I feel is when I’m surrounded by a lot of people. I think this is why I drink or smoke weed so much at parties or social events – it’s the only way I can dull that feeling of loneliness. Now that I’ve taken away all my coping mechanisms, I’m drowning in loneliness. I know I’m not alone, but that is how I feel. Continue reading

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Addiction Truths

I’ve been coming to the realisation, over the past several years, that I am an addict. I’m probably what one might call a ‘functioning addict,’ in that my addictions do not destroy my entire life and everyone in it, at least not in such a direct way. Continue reading

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Gender Rant

Every day is a fight. When I walk out the door of my house, I have to deal with how other people react to me based on their perception of my gender. Either I’m gendered incorrectly (as male or female) or I’m stared at while they try to figure it out. Continue reading

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Mental Health: request for advice!

I haven’t written for quite a while, particularly about my mental health, and I think it’s about time I change that. Continue reading

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Infinite Gender

Gender, for me, is not linear or controlled, it is expansive and explosive, it flows like water through cracks and it tears apart the rigid rules within which we constrain ourselves. It is human nature to classify things, to separate into boxes, to divide and conquer. This is what we have done to gender. With the growing trans activist movement, and increasing awareness of the binary system in which we have classified gender, people are slowly starting to become more aware that gender does not have to be restricted, or controlled. Society is starting to colour outside the lines, and with it, I hope, comes a deeper understanding of gender and the complexity of the human condition. Continue reading

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